FRIDAY THOUGHTS: RECONNECTING WITH OLD FRIENDS

Friday, 1 September 2017













"Make new friends, but don't forget the old, one is silver, the other is gold." - Joseph Parry

Hello lovelies,

I'm sorry I missed my Wednesday upload this week! Falling at the first hurdle with my new blogging routine, lol! Truth be told I did actually do a makeup look but it turned out so horrifically that there was no way I was going to upload it lol! There will definitely be one next week though!

So today I thought I'd write a short but sweet 'Friday Thoughts', especially after last week's more heavy post.

I wanted to chat about friendship, and rediscovering friendships that we thought we dead and buried.

My time off uni has been a funny old few months. It's been a time when I've often felt pretty lonely, pretty disheartened, and rather left behind. 

I've watched all my friends having a whirl of a time at uni through the all too warped lens social media offers us. I've watched them graduate and go on to start jobs, and all the while I've been at home working on my health, fearing that I'd lose all the friendship connections I had made whilst I was at uni. 

But there have been lighter moments.

I've recently gotten back in touch with one of my good friends from primary school, who has been off uni this past year due to illness too.

It must've been a good few years since we caught up with each other, and getting back in touch all started with a simple, out of the blue Facebook message. Since then we've often chatted on Facebook messenger, and had a good few catch ups, during which I've realised just how much has changed, but also that everything is still the same. We still get on really well, we still have so many of the same interests, and we're still, fundamentally the same.

It's only now that I've realised that erhaps I've regained this friendship at this particular time in my life for a reason. I guess we both needed a person in a similar predicament to the one we had found ourselves in, and that we offered that comfort to one another. It can be very hard to find someone who understands chronic illness, and who completely understands what it's like for this to turn your life upside down. But I guess we provide that to each other. I know that her friendship has offered me great comfort and support this past year, and has allowed me to realise that I'm not alone. I'd like to hope that my friendship has done the same for her. 

I'm glad that I've reconnected with this friend. Not only do I now realise that it was so important for me to have that friendship at this time, but I've also realised how much I had missed her friendship these past few years. I'd like to hope that now we've reconnected, that we continue to stay in contact, to offer each other support on these issues that many others haven't found themselves in, but also to continue to grow this friendship. 

In life we're constantly meeting new people, unearthing new relationships, and though this is wonderful, sometimes we lament the ones that we have moved on from.

But it doesn't have to be that way. Sure, sometimes there are people that we meet in life who we form bonds with for a time, but then we move on, having got what we needed out of that friendship. But more often that not, a friendship doesn't fall apart because that person doesn't value you anymore, or no longer wants you in their life. Rather, for them too, life just got in the way, and losing contact with you was simply a consequence of that.

Friendships aren't as fixed as we make them. I think often, if we lose touch with a friend for an extended period of time, we write them off, thinking that friendship is lost for good. Of course, we have our constants, I'm pretty sure I have one or two of those. We have those that enter our life for a time and then leave them permanently. And then we also have those that dip in and out. Sometimes, with those friends, you need to make that extra bit of effort to stay in touch, and that's the only way you can try to carry those friends with you throughout your life, so that they become constants. 

So I guess what I'm saying is; don't be afraid to contact old friends. Sending a simple "Hi, how are you? We need to catch up!" can go a long way, and more often than not, that friend will be so glad to hear from you, and would have missed that friendship too. Life is far too short to fear being the one to 'text first'. 

Do you have any friendships that you mourn the loss of? Have you ever tried to get back in touch with an old friend? Let me know in the comments below! <3

Until next time,
Bisous <3

Eva
xxx


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